Happy Monday! I have decided that each Monday (as long as I am consistent) I will post something called Monday Musings where I will be an open book in regards to anything on my mind or happening in my life that I feel necessary to share. Why am I doing this? Well, because I can!
No, but seriously. I want this blog to be more open and real and relatable because life is NOT perfect, am I right?!
Don’t worry, there will still be amazing food recipes but Mondays will be the days we Break. It. Down.
Today’s topic is all about decency. Decency is the behavior that conforms to accepted standards of morality and/or respectability. My main issue is the disappearance of decency in this day and time that we live in. What happened to calling people back, doing what you say you’re going to do, acting like a lady, and simply having a strong work ethic in hopes of being successful the real way.
I have always felt as though I am an old soul. Or maybe, I’m just not a good millennial. Sure, I like silly phrases and sayings like “AF” or “dope” that people use each day, I like certain ridiculous TV shoes (Real Housewives!), and I’d be lying if I said I don’t care how my Instagram feed looks. However, I was raised to work my butt off to be successful and not take any short cuts. I was raised to treat others with respect. I was raised to do a job right or don’t do it at all.
My current employers have always told me that I’m not your regular millennial because I know how to work hard and not take the easy way out. In my personal opinion, I feel like people are so concerned with social media to a sickening level. It’s all about showing others what you have and what they don’t have. Why are we flaunting our bodies, clothes, cars, etc. so much? WHO CARES that you have a Range Rover in your drive way… it’s probably leased anyways. Do I want a Range Rover? Um, hell yes! That’s why I’m going to work my ass off and hopefully purchase my own one day. But for now, my Infiniti SUV is my baby and doing just fine taking me from point A to point B. The point I’m trying to make is that humility goes a longgg way.
Another thing that’s been on my mind lately is something my older brother shared with me a week ago. He is currently attending NIU where he is studying relentlessly to earn his PHD. He is probably the smartest person I know. Not only is he smart, but he’s also extremely funny, kind-hearted and just a downright good person. He is in his early 30’s and has been through heartbreak in his day. He isn’t in any rush to find someone because he knows his mission and goal right now is to focus on school and if something happens and he meets someone, then that’s great! He isn’t forcing anything and letting the universe do its thing.
His complaint to me was about flaky girls. Girls who play games. What’s the point in giving out your phone number if you know deep down that you don’t want to hang out? Or if you know that you won’t keep your word and won’t just go on one date and give it a shot. He met a girl on campus who just started her master’s program and I guess they seemed to have a lot in common. Well, she willingly gave my brother her number and agreed that they could meet for drinks and hang out. The next day, something “came up” and she couldn’t meet until a later time. A few hours after that, she cancelled the plans completely with the “I’m so sorry, I promise we will try to do this again…”
STOP. Any girl or guy who plays these immature and ridiculous games needs to stop and just grow up. No one is held at gunpoint to share their phone number. Have some balls and don’t share your number to begin with. Stop playing these lame games.
What happened to keeping your word? If there’s anything that aggravates me, it is when people don’t do what they say they are going to do. I think being flaky and sketchy is so normalized nowadays. I even have “friends” who do this. I don’t understand it and don’t even want to associate with people who can’t be genuine. I ain’t got time for that anymore!
Anyways, I will get off of my soap box now. Sometimes it’s so good to rant and just let it all go. The universe will handle it how it wants to.
If you have any stories to share or advice on how to brush off when people act this way, I would love to hear!
Happy Monday everyone!